I bet you're a "master text-er." You can whip out your phone faster than any of your guy friends and you know how to use it.
If only your "love life" worked as efficiently as your text messages you wouldn't have to be searching for an answer today.
You might have your phone under control but those men, you know the ones who elude you at every turn, like they're actually trying to piss you off or play some silly dating game.
They have a serious problem with a seemingly simple task of just texting you back.
It annoys you so much you feel like ripping your hair out because you just don't understand...
WHY!
Give me a few minutes of your time today and I promise to get to the bottom of why a guy doesn't text you back and...
You will also get two simple texts to send a guy which will reveal if he's worth your time and if he's interested in you.
Let's get real about this problem.
Men are not the best with their phone skills when it comes to an attractive woman such as yourself. Keep that in mind and expect anything and everything from him with regards to texting.
It's no secret that lots of men are terrible "texters." In fact I've sold so many "texting guides for men" without even trying that there must be something going on with their terrible texting habits.
Okay, let's play fair - women just like you buy them too, but that's neither here nor there.
Here is where I'm going to show you a practically guaranteed method to get him to text you back quicker with two easy texts.
(Go ahead and let me know how it worked for you below... the bad and the good.)
SEND THIS:
I was just thinking about you. 🙂
If you don't get a response within five minutes...
SEND THIS:
HA! And now you have the pleasure of thinking about me. 😉
DO NOT send another text until you hear back from him.
If he's not into you you're going to find out quickly.
How he responds says everything about how much he's attracted to you and what type of guy he really is.
If he doesn't respond and you're completely positive (without a doubt) there's not a good reason, then he is just not that interested in you.
I know it sucks but hey, two texts to see if a guy is into you is not really an investment which is going to break your emotional bank, is it?
I'll explain why it works.
Men can not resist wondering if a potential girlfriend is thinking about them.
He'll get that "cocky" look in his eye when it's happening and it drives him crazy when he has to guess. He now knows you're thinking about him and when you "suggest" he'll be thinking about you, he will have no choice but to do just that...
Think about you in a way which is close to how he FEELS about you.
Because when a man can not get an image of a woman out of their mind he finds himself desiring her more and more.
Here's the cool part of about this simple text routine.
You'll know quickly what TYPE of man you're dealing with. He'll either crumble or step up to the plate of your flirty text.
In other words - he will either shut up or put up.
And the really cool part is that you're not forcing the issue at all.
It doesn't come off as needy or desperate which makes him want to reply to you even more.
You're making a quick statement which doesn't even require a response which is what you want because he'll text back IF he's into you and based on what he texts back - will reveal how much and in which way he is interested in you.
Now that you know what to text him PLEASE, before you send the routine - there are some very important warnings you must be aware of:
- Don't over use it on one guy or you'll kill its effect. It's a one and done kind of thing unless you change it.
- Change it slightly to fit your personal situation. Constantly develop it and mix in some flirty humor.
- Understand there are reasons beyond a man's control which make it impossible to respond immediately. Be patient.
- If you insist on texting him again before he responds, wait at least 24 hours and then text this, "I think that picture I sent you yesterday is going to get me in trouble. :p ". I'm telling you this one works amazingly well, but it's sexual overtone is not for everyone.
- If you are not having fun with it you're doing something wrong. Comment below what happened and I'll see what I can do for you.
- Sending a sexy picture of you will get a response but depending on his age he will show it to his friends so expect that to happen. Younger men in particular. Sending pictures do work but they are more effective in other ways.
You have the texting routine, some of the reasons why it works and how it does it's magic; you also have a stamped-out list of why a guy will not or can not text you back...
Lastly...
HOW do you know how he feels or if he's interested in you just by what or if he texts you back.
The obvious first:
If you don't hear anything back AFTER the two texts, and a reasonable amount of time passes - it will generally mean he's either not THAT interested (in that way) OR he's with someone else romantically. Either way it's a clear sign to not text him again.
If he plays into your flirty text then that's a good sign he's attracted to you.
Interest is something else.
The difference being, attraction is what we feel towards women, interest is what we feel when we want to explore those feelings more with you.
If he responds back in a less flirty kind of weird boring way - this means one of two things:
He doesn't know how to flirt or text flirt (which is the less probably reason) OR he's not attracted to you or interested in exploring the romantic side with you.
Sure you can try again but it's not advisable because there are many other opportunities with other men.
Why waste your time, energy, and amazing texting skills on a guy who is either not into you or doesn't even know how to text flirt with a woman he likes.
Us guys, okay well it's a human thing but, when someone texts us something like what I've asked you to send, we can not help but to interpret what it means based on HOW we're feeling about the person who is sending it to us. It's human nature to be curious.
Think about it.
The message isn't really sexual at all.
Sure it's a little flirty but sexual, I think not.
The interpretation then becomes more of a personal thing to the person receiving it.
Imagine if someone you've known for years as (just a friend) sends you it. Wouldn't you think it was a little creepy? Wouldn't it be way out of character?
Downright weird and certainly random.
It wouldn't feel sexual at all because it's interpreted by you as coming from someone who is... just a friend.
But when it comes to a relationship which is not known or clearly defined, meaning he could be into you or not, attracted to you or not, (the text message) is ambiguous in nature.
It could be interpreted either way.
Which is why it works and how it WILL work for you.
The guy being sent the message interprets it based on how he feels about you or how he sees you - romantically, attracted, as a friend, a potential date, etc...
Lastly...
I have a post in the works to help you get a guy to respond to your text message under most circumstances but honestly, I have the technique down - just not the actual "texts" or "words" to send so who knows how long it will take me to research that problem.
In the meantime - if you're having texting problems this will take care of them all.
The program centers around grabbing and keeping a man's attention by using pre-made text messages built around getting him to think about you.
Sort of in the same way which I've proposed above in my little two-text routine. You see, as a guy, the more we think about a woman when she's not around - the higher the chance of us becoming more attracted and sometimes obsessed with her - which can way too easily lead to feelings of love.
Check it out if it's something you'd be interested in spending a little to get the routines.
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Thank you for all your support and I do hope ALL you need is my quick "two text message" to get him to FINALLY reveal how he feels about you so you can spend more time enjoying life with him and less time - figuring him out.
I tried this after wondering why he only texts twice a day and hardly ever calls.
I got an immediate response with a picture of him lying in bed watching a football game. He asked what I was up to? I didn’t answer the question but He went on to say how busy his day was and how he was trying to wrap a 5 day week into a 4 day week so he can leave town early for the weekend. It is my birthday this weekend and I already knew he would be gone so its okay. I told him to enjoy the game and I was sorry to bother him since he was trying to relax. He told me it was halftime but not to be so sensitive and stop overthinking everything. He said be patient and let things take their own pace. He did say he enjoyed seeing my text. He also said new relationships are difficult but I wasn’t difficult. All this from him after I said enjoy the game and an apology in case I intruded on his relaxation after a long day??? This morning I simply texted good morning and he texted back saying how busy his day was going to be and listed everything he had to do… He mentioned a concert in December we made plans to attend and he added verbiage “if you want me to go that far out???” Did I miss something?
Angela,
I wish I could help you the entire way but I sadly can not.
However, I can tell by what you wrote, taking him and whatever or where ever he is with you, you are smothering him. Find a way to give him some time and space by focusing on you and your life. The relationship needs to grow organically and appears you’re not letting it happen. You’re way ahead of him on this.
Sorry to bear the news but I do feel it’s the truth and fits. I’ve seen it happen way too much to miss the signs.
Here is some extra reading which may help you re-focus, gather your breath, and just relax… before you push too hard.
(Some will be more useful than others so you can skip the un-related sections inside them.)
https://www.whydoguys.com/three-things-you-must-do-when-it-feels-like-your-man-is-pulling-away/
https://www.whydoguys.com/10-tips-on-how-to-make-a-man-fall-madly-in-love-desire-you-more/
https://www.whydoguys.com/the-secret-to-keeping-a-man-forget-the-future-enjoy-the-present/
https://www.whydoguys.com/the-secret-to-building-forward-momentum-in-your-romantic-relationship/
https://www.whydoguys.com/is-he-moving-too-slowly-for-you-is-he-taking-forever-to-commit-to-you/
https://www.whydoguys.com/is-hes-drifting-away-how-make-him-miss-you-love-you/
Thank you for everything.
You’ll be just fine. Relax.
hi i send him the first text and he replied back with hi how have you been. after which i reply him good and ask him back how has he been. he put me on read for 1 day and reply back with sorry been really busy. i guess he’s not that interested after all
Hello Kim and unfortunately his response is definitely points to a lack of interest.
However, based on what you wrote to him, you didn’t encourage or amplify his interest. You didn’t send the sequence or text properly.
Make sure you read the directions or at least make him laugh and think about you in a fun positive way next time 9r with a different guy.
All the best and good luck to you,
Pete
hi peter,
thank you for the reply.
i asked him out for dinner this friday & he agreed. you are so right, the lack of interest is so strong. i was the one to initiate the meetup, the dinner location. previously he told me he suppressed his feelings for me. should i continue to msg him or should i let go & move on?
Thanks for this. I used it this morning because I just can’t figure out why we don’t have more dates. We had a terrific time a few days ago (my invite) but he goes all quiet. We talked briefly the next morning with my prompting and while it was a playful and short conversation, he talked about how busy he is. So this morning I sent the first text, nothing came for 9 minutes then I sent the second one. In 2 minutes he replied with a big fat red heart.
So based on your article, I would conclude he likes me a lot, but I just don’t get why he doesn’t try to see me more (it’s like once a week since we rekindled a month ago).
Any thoughts you might have would be greatly appreciated!
Chrys
Hi Chrys. Thank you and you’re welcome.
First thing – if all seems well (chemistry & connection, etc…) between you and a guy and he keeps saying or repeating that he’s busy, it’s his nice way of telling you that he thinks (feels) you’re contacting him too much and needs some space. If you continue to push, you’ll push him away. So be careful.
A man or woman doesn’t actually have to be busy to feel like something or someone is making them feel busy. Please note the difference.
Great to hear you got a heart back. That’s a good sign.
The very “general” and as I hate to use the word “assumption” you can make here is:
When a person is only open to once a week (or slightly more) for a date (e.g. anything like a mini-date of talking on the phone or messaging back and forth), “assume” it’s still in the very casual deciding and dating around or even others mode.
Anything less like everyday, every few days, or several times a date is typical reserved for people in relationship mode.
I’d assume he wants to keep it this way for a while, so stay busy, etc… Give him the time and space he’s looking for and show him you’re okay with it. Otherwise, you could find him backing off the more the push forward.
All the best.
I texted him and he responded within a minute “Hieee 😘” and asked “what I was up to”. We texted a little bit which turned sexy and when I could tell the conversation was done so I texted the second text to make him think about me for the rest of the day. He responded “Oh he would be……”.
So it worked. Not sure his true interest but I got an extremely quick response.
Very nice Susan. Thanks for sharing and happy you got a quick response.
It means exactly what it feels like to you. He’s sexually interested in you, likes to think about you, and is engaging with you in a way which can turn into something more – if that’s where you want to go.
Thanks again,
Pete
I hope your still replying to these…..so ahhhhh previously I got mad at him because I was in trouble and he didnt even bother to ask or care…..so i gotad at him and dared him to block me…he blocked me without hesitation…..after a month I send him a message and he said he still remembers me……we started talking I told him never to block me he said never……what confuses is he replies yes…no….what….goodmng he never brings up any topic to talk about or ask…….when I could still meet him at the gym we would really talk and I could see sort of attraction for me in his eyes however we are of different cultures and religion……do u think he likes me or am I forcing myself on him
I dont know if you still reply to these but I have a question. I’ve been in an on-off relationship for 8yrs now. We both swear we want to be together, and he’s super flirty while we’re together. Lately he’s been spending more “free-time” with his friends as one is about to be shipped off for training and were trying to “work on ourselves” at the moment to be better partners. As I said, hes really flirty when were together, has gotten more flirty on the phone but when we text and I send a kissy-face emoji, or xo’s or call him babe (we call eachother by name in perrson)..he seems to either ignore it or just go mia for awhile. Why would he be fine flirting openly but not reciprocate when I do through text?? Am I coming across as pushy/needy??
I do still reply Karen so it’s all good.
The simple answer: The texting thing, not a big deal. Don’t worry about it.
Men don’t typically like to flirt text. It tends to be or become a bit annoying especially when it’s happens a lot and the man is feelings constantly pressured to answer back. I won’t get into all the details or deep explanation behind it all so you’ll have to take my word on it in good faith.
Based on the nature and the status of your relationship my best advice is not to push it on him. Don’t make this a deal-breaker or turn into something more than it is not. MOST people can live without flirt texting. Try not to make it a problem for you by not having it around and your relationship will move at least a little smoother.
I can not say if you’re coming across pushy/needy because there’s lots of important key details I need about your relationship, some if which I’ve already guessed, until I’m to give a definite answer.
However – if you follow the advice above and can let it slide without agitating you too much, or causing other problems because you feel it’s always looming, you won’t have to worry about becoming pushy, right?
Thanks for asking,
Pete