I was texting this guy for like a month and then he told me he likes me, and literally four days later he just stops texting me, and it’s like I don’t even exist anymore. Can you please help me with this?
Hi Kyra,
It’s hard for me to tell exactly what happened based on what you wrote so I’ll give you several reasons why a guy might suddenly stop texting you, and hopefully, one or more will fit your situation.
First: What was your reaction? Did you say it back?
I’m not sure how you reacted to his statement but if you didn’t say it back clearly enough for him, or if he didn’t get your hint that could be why. Lots of men kind of expect the same “sentiment” to be returned or more and if they don’t get it might feel rejected.
Second: It’s only been four days so there’s still a chance something happened beyond his control. Maybe by the time you read this he’ll have contacted you with an encouraging text.
Not long ago I wrote “13 Real Reasons Why A Guy Won’t Text You Back” I’d click on it and give it a quick read if you feel like something went wrong. It’s located at “The Approach”
Third: I’m going to call this one a “Runner!” You’ll find these guys are more common among a younger group. They tend to freak out after telling a woman they either like them, love them, or even if they believe a line was crossed and they have no idea on know what to do next. (As in an awkward or nervous first kiss.)
Those types of guys may not be overly confident, they might not know how to act after, or they just don’t know what to do next.
Sometimes a “Runner” will expect a different reaction or worse yet, want you to take a bigger next step. I realize that’s tough through texting but often a “Runner” has unrealistic expectations based on his uncertainty and perhaps “future” thoughts.
My point is there are lots of guys who just don’t know what to do next in so many situations with women it can easily cause them to disappear right after an event like yours. Although lots of them will eventually come back sooner or later.
Runners always have to rest some time. 
Now… why might a guy text you for a month, tell you he likes you, and then all of a sudden stop texting:
- You didn’t say it back clearly enough for him.
- He expected you to make a different next move.
- He’s not comfortable or confident in how to express his feeling and got scared and ran.
- He’s not sure what to do next so decided to “freak out” or seek advice from “dudes” like me. 😉
- He does not know HOW to act next. He’s worried he’s going to screw it up.
- It may have been out of control.
Thanks for asking Kyra. I appreciate you stopping by. If you have anything to add, be sure to leave me a quick reply below.
Best of luck and let’s hope it was either beyond his control or you found a runner who will eventually “man up”
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