Written by James Bauer creator of the Relationship Rewrite Method.
Do you have a big heart?
I mean, are you good at loving people?
If so, your ex would be crazy not to let you back into his life. Here’s why.
They say the meaning of life is to find your gift. And the purpose of your life is to give it away.
But in order to give away your gift, someone must receive it.
So who should you give it to?
I think you already know the answer. But we’ll come back to that in just a sec. Because, first I need to make a prediction.
I predict you already have a mental image of one man in your thoughts right now. As you read these words, you can picture his face.
But thinking of him brings up mixed emotions. Because you know how good you could be together. You know how much potential this relationship could have.
Yet there’s pain there too. And that pain comes from the fact that something is blocking you from giving away the greatest gift a person could ever receive.
Your love.
By the way, If you’d like to skip ahead to see my laser-targeted advice about getting your ex to talk to you again:
You see, I specialize in helping women like you. As a relationship coach, my favorite kind of client is a woman with a gift for loving deeply.
A person who just needs a little boost to overcome the obstacle that stands between her and the romantic bliss she deserves. I mean, let’s face it...
When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.
Especially when you know there’s still a lot of potential if he would just open his heart again!
You could build a beautiful life together.
If that’s something you want, then it’s worth fighting for.
But here’s a question for you...
If you’re so good at loving people, why not just settle for some other guy? Why not pour your love into a guy who adores you, but triggers none of your own instincts for affection?
What if it’s the pudgy guy with poor social skills and body odor? What if he appreciates your love more than anyone you’ve ever met? Should the two of you elope?
Of course not. And here’s why.
He will prevent you from giving away the most precious gift you possess. True love. Deep affection, admiration, desire.
Mutual desire. That’s the golden ticket. And that’s also why it’s not a good idea to hide your feelings for your ex.
Too many of my clients want to hold their cards close to their chest. “I’ll only reveal my true feelings if he goes first.”
I get so tired of hearing that. Because it means I have to find a way for her to send an encrypted message that says, “I will only become the woman you need if you first prove I am the woman you want.”
Do you see why that doesn’t work?
Playing hard to get has its place, but not with your ex.
If you want to win back your guy’s heart, there’s something else you should know...
Showing you still like him isn’t enough.
There are plenty of other women who will show they like him. And they don’t have to overcome the wall he’s built up because of your history together.
They don’t have to overcome his “been there, done that,” attitude about seeing where things could go with you.
Overcome his distant attitude
The fact is, those are obstacles you must overcome. But the good news is, you can succeed with the right approach.
You just need to get past the barriers that are currently keeping the two of you apart. And for that, I have a solution.
It’s called the Relationship Rewrite Method, and its power comes from one simple fact...
Emotions run the show.
No matter how stubborn he is, and no matter how “logical,” his decisions are, he’s human. Which means emotions drive his decision-making more than anything else.
Emotions begin to steer his actions before decisions even enter the equation. Because emotions determine what he wants in the first place.
Here’s the secret to getting back with your ex. Forget about convincing him to give things another try. Focus instead on changing the way he feels.
Focus on his interests and feelings
If you like the idea, but you’re not sure where to start, I invite you to take a shortcut.
I’ve watched what works and what doesn’t for many years. And I’ve assembled those insights into a series of steps anyone can use.
If you’re the kind of person who likes to learn the hard way, I understand and I wish you the best of luck. But if you’d rather not reinvent the wheel, I have a short video that describes more about it.
Discover the Relationship Rewrite Method Here
It could be the beginning of a new chapter with your ex, just waiting for you to turn the page.
Oh, wait. You’re still waiting to learn the one thing that proves you’re meant to be together?
Well the answer is simple, really.
You see, I’ve noticed something about people. Something about the way the human mind works.
Expending energy goes against our instincts. That’s why it’s hard to get yourself off the couch to go for a jog.
Yet something happened in your mind when you read the title of this article. I didn’t name any guy in particular.
Yet it was your ex who came to mind. The guy who pulled away. The guy with emotional walls to keep you out.
And despite all the obstacles you have to overcome, your emotions still draw you toward that man. That tells me something no match-making personality test ever could.
It tells me your heart has already chosen. Now we’re just waiting for destiny to catch up.
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Don’t Do This Unless You Want To Push Him Away Even Further!
When you’ve shared a special connection with someone, it’s hard to let it go.
Especially when you know there’s so much potential if he would just open up his heart to you again.
You could build a beautiful life together.
If that’s something you want, it makes sense to try to convince him to give the relationship another shot, right?
Why wouldn’t you try reasoning with him?
Why wouldn’t you try to show him he’s making a mistake by pulling away?
Yet this is where our instincts get it all wrong.
And it’s because trying to convince your ex simply doesn’t work.
In fact, it’s almost guaranteed to push him away.
Fortunately, there’s a simple way to powerfully open his heart up to you again...
The secret is to learn how to trigger his feelings.
You see... feelings will always trump logic. Every time.
Why?
Because emotions run the show for us.
We humans are not as rational as we’d like to believe.
That’s true of all forms of decision-making, but especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
I’ll show you what I mean. Let’s try something.
Take a quick look at this list of don’ts:
Don’t Do This:
- Don’t argue that he owes you an explanation since you know he still has feelings for you.
- Don’t tell him the relationship was going just fine and then try to get him to own his share of the blame for why things began to fall apart.
- Don’t imply he owes you something after all you’ve been through together.
- Don’t tell him real relationships take work and he needs to grow up.
- Don’t try to prove you shared something special by forcing him to acknowledge specific examples from your past.
Notice how you felt as you read that.
It’s probably clear that all that telling, convincing, and arguing will get you nowhere.
In fact, it will simply reinforce the painful emotions that are driving him away from you in the first place.
Why?
Because his brain will automatically come up with counter-arguments.
For example, if you tell him things were great in the past, he will immediately test if that’s truth by scanning his memories for contradictory evidence.
He’ll start thinking of all the fights, the frustrations, and other low points.
He’ll mention those problems. And this will reinforce your efforts to convince.
You’ll end up showing him your worst side.
Angry.
Desperate.
And if that goes on too long, you’ll become bitter, resentful, and maybe even sarcastic.
It’s a death spiral any relationship.
You know it’s true.
This is how we all react when something matters to us deeply but the other person refuses to be convinced.
This is not what I want for you to show him.
Don’t try to convince.
Instead, let HIS emotions do the work for you.
When you trigger certain powerful emotions within him, you will draw him irresistibly back into your arms.
The kind of emotions I’m talking about will make him dream of a future together and dread the thought of losing you.
These are the kind of deep emotions that lifelong partnerships are built upon.
There are many ways to trigger these kinds of emotions in your man, and it’s not always easy to know exactly what to do.
If you’d like laser targeted advice about getting your ex, or distant man back into your life for good, then my friend and relationship expert James Bauer has an eye-opening presentation for you.
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James Bauer – Relationship Dating Coach
James Bauer is a dating and relationship expert who through his private practice has coached couples achieve a happier more productive marriage.
He realized he could help so many more women and men if he created an online version at such a huge discount every one can enjoy a wonderful marriage.
The two packages are now available at a price any can afford and they, the video presentations attached are What Men Secretly Want and His Secret Obsession. He also knows HOW to put a failing relationship back together and you’ll find that conveniently here, The Relationship Rewrite Method.
In order to advertise and reveal his secrets to you he has written extensively and is willing to share them with you here at Why Do Guys…?
I hope they help and you learn something you can put into use immediately.
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Thank you for everything,
Peter White
