Yep. It’s quite obvious what those two guys above are doing but guys are NOT always so obvious when it comes to communicating “other” things, are they?
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Uh hi! There’s this guy and i often feel his stares but shrug it off cause he’s way out of my league.We’re not friends but not complete stranger either.He would often call my name,touch my shoulder,squeeze my waist while walking past me but we never ever had a normal convo(if him scolding me for always using my celeb crush as profile picture counts).There’s always this eye contact too even in crowds.There’s so many suspicious actions of him liking me but im not sure. But recently, he suddenly change. He kinda ignore me maybe he knew i like him? .I’m so confused PLEASE HELP!
Hi Minnie,
I highly doubt he’s way out of your league and it’s most likely thinking like that which will cause a guy to first show interest and then pull back.
Men will typically pull back when they feel rejected and to some women it feels like they’re being ignored… but they’re not. The guy probably feels like what he was doing was not working and he’s now waiting for YOU to do something.
This is how it works – we flirt, tease, give a little, stare a little, all thins we believe are actions to prove our interest and expect women to know what’s going on.
We then might step back a little to see if you follow or do something, anything, which now proves your interest in us being interested in you. 🙂
If nothing comes after, we will then step back further because it feels like we were rejected, what we were doing was not working, and you’re not interested.
Your suspicions were right BUT your belief that some guy is out of your league is most likely not.
Your guy friend,
Pete
Hi…Pete I met a guy in a cafe he’s the owner of the cafe he stares me every time I am in the cafe he gave me sacks for free,makes eye contact with me and fixes his hair whenever he sees me.But one day he left the cafe and I was waiting for him so I now feel a little confused.I like him back what should I do? Plz help me he’s driving me nuts😢
Hi Gouri,
You need to “steer” the conversation (start one if you have to) into an area where you both have outside common interests. It makes it easy for a guy to “suggest” you do it (or something) together.
I will warn you though that if a guy won’t take the lead and it’s obvious he is interested in you (trust your intuition here) you might get stuck leading every step of your dating experience with him. AND you might not like that that every time.
I’m not saying you should blow off every guy who can’t take the hint and lead, I’m only saying ALL you can really do throw down some nibbles and see if he bites. Not ALL men will get it and don’t understand what “leading” a woman is and you have no control over that. Keep that in mind because I wouldn’t want you to take him not moving forward as him not interested in you. There are other clear indicators of that which are by far more reliable.
So cut down the coffee, too much will only amp up your nuttiness. 🙂
Seriously, try what I said… Introduce common outside interests quickly in the conversation and see if he can put it altogether.
Your guy friend,
Pete
Hi Peter,
I am so glad that I found your website. Some of what you had to say made me cry because I recognized myself in it. Its so hard when you don’t always feel good about yourself to believe any man could have interest. I have known this guy for a short while and sometimes it seems like he is showing interest in minor ways but he never tries to talk to me personally. When I do have the opportunity to talk to him I have no idea what to say. He is kind of a public figure and he mentions in front of groups a lot that he is just a regular guy when telling the story of how he got where he is. It seems a few times that when he says these things he is looking right at me, but again I don’t know what to say to him! Is it true that if he were really interested, he would approach me? That’s what my family & friends tell me. None of them have ever been there when he has seemingly shown interest so they all think I am crazy.
Hi Nani,
Public speakers are trained one way or another to make everyone in the audience (small or big) feel like they are talking directly to them.
Also, nope, just because a guy is really interested in you does NOT mean he will approach you. Depends on the guy, his situation, where he is mentally, the circumstance, the timing, how deep the physical attraction is, etc..
When you have another opportunity to talk to him – you have lots of options to talk about. One would be the obvious and ask him about what he does for a living. It’s an easy lead although I must say it’s a too average or I’m sure lots of other men and women will ask him that.
If you want to stand out a little and be different. Come at it from another angle. A little flirty. Bust his ass a little. Keep it short and walk away a little too early. It’s okay to compliment him if you want but do NOT compliment on his job or anything like that. Stick the offbeat ones or something others might not notice.
Just for the record… I don’t think you’re crazy. 🙂 Just please stop crying when you read my “stuff”. That’s not my intent and I’m not into making women cry. 😀
Your guy friend,
Pete