We don’t hide it very well, do we? Although some of us claim to be masters at not getting caught.
I guess the word is out. Girls know we’re staring at them. There’s no reason to hide it anymore.
If they want to know why, let’s tell them…
But first … This question is vague yet the chosen words – “Guys & Girls” leads me to believe this is a younger woman’s question so I’ll keep the answer as relevant as possible.
When I was “staring at girls” I was checking them out.
Beauty, especially in the eyes of a sexually driven guy, not only catches our eye but can literally freeze us. Sometime it’s almost impossible to turn away.
It’s strange because unless we talk to you the image disappears quickly. Making any later fantasies with your image almost impossible. Although I imagine some guys are better at that than other.
So if we know you and are still staring there’s a good chance we’re going to use that image later. Now before you go thinking it’s all sexual. It’s not. Sometimes it’s a girlfriend theme or the perfect “meet up” or even just a kiss.
You can safely assume, like nine times out of ten, if any guy is staring at you he is checking you out.
He wants to meet you. He is attracted to you.
In a weird way he even wants to get caught because just maybe, if you catch him staring at you, you’ll stare back and it’s on. I would say more than half of those guys are desperately hoping you’ll approach them.
From there he’ll probably even assume you like him or at least are attracted to him. That usually depends on his self-esteem.
Think of this. As guys. When we’re hanging out and some girl starts staring at us our friends are likely to smack us and say, “Dude! That girl is totally checking you out.”
Since we’re men and can only think like a male we’re usually going to assume you work the same way. It often goes like this:
- Checking you out – We see something we like or are attracted to you.
- Staring at you – Locked in your beauty and most like want to get caught so you’ll approach us. Lessening the chance of being rejected.
Now as for the whole “sexual attraction” level I would have to say it’s almost like an addiction. Not usually harmful but it certainly can be.
When we see a “hot” girl we’re likely to get a little excited. Not hard just sexually aware.
And it feels good.
So we do it a lot because it feels good.
Strange to you maybe but to me, as a guy, it feels perfectly natural and I’ve been enjoying it for many years. Just now as I get older I’ve learned not to let it take me away or make me do stupid stuff.
If you’re dealing with younger guys staring at you, then he may not have learned his own personal control over how good it feels and he reacts blatantly to it.
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Hi Pete!
I was sitting outside at a party with a group of friends (both guys and girls) and I said to my female friend, “OMG it’s really cold! I wish I had a jacket!” And one of the really cute guys was smiling and he said, “Oh, I have a jacket…does someone want my jacket?” And I looked at him with a sly smile on my face and I asked him, “Are you offering your jacket?” And he was like, “Yeah, here, you can have it.” And he passed it to me and I was like, “Wait…are you sure? You’re not cold?” And he’s like, “Nah, I’m okay.”
Why did he offer me his jacket? Was it just him being polite and chivalrous, or was it flirty? Thanks!
Laura
Hi Laura,
Well obviously he was being nice
And I suppose a little Chivalrous.
I’m assuming you want to know if his gesture was a sign that this cute guy might be interested in you. Right?
In my experience, you have to look outside the situation. Look into his character as a person. Is he a person who would give away his jacket to just anyone. Once you know that you can then look at how he treats you. If it’s followed by flirting and uses the jacket as an excuse to talk to you more, then you have your answer.
That’s key. If he now uses the jacket as an excuse to talk to you, or used it to get to know you better, then he most likely is interested.
Not all guys flirt or know how BUT I can say, giving someone your jacket is not a flirty thing to do. Flirting is a sub-textual thing and more than often includes words. But it was a nice thing to do and might be used as a lead in to something else.
I think you’ll know your answer soon enough Laura,
Pete
hi, i like this guy thats in 8th grade and the only class i have with him is PE. which means we run, and when i run my face gets red. when we were done running we are supposed to go to the gym in are school so i did. i looked up and saw him staring at me. Was he staring at me because he likes me or because my face was red?
Dude, the whole time I was reading it aloud, my brother, who is right next to me, was nodding and agreeing with every word.
omg thats soo funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Theres this guy at school that always stares and smiles and i always smiled back and we did this for months and then i finally text him and asked why he stared and he said he dunno,then i said something and he didnt reply for hours,then he blanked me,so the next day i text him and said dont blank me,he asked why and i said because its rude and he said he doesnt blank hes just busy,the conversation ended there,when we went back to school on monday my friend was trying to push me to him and his friend was tryna push him to me,later that week i caught him looking at me again,what does this mean??
Normally it means he’s attracted to you but is unsure and doesn’t know what to do next. He’s nervous and can’t get himself to follow through with his feelings.
thankyou,what shall i do?i think i put him off
At my school there are these two guys that always stare at me in class. One of them named Alex was singing to me. The other one always stare at me and when a person ask him if he likes me he says no and smiles at me. We also do stuff together though.
Ok there this boy and I kidna like him alittle. I know his twin sister and lets say we are really good friends. And today, she told me that he was looking at my butt and I was kinda like “wow?”
Other wise I really good friends with the boy I like, he says we are homies, and he stares at me sometimes, he teases me, we like to joke around with each other, we talk to each other everyday, and he calls me “Baby Blue” which is strange.
So is it just a friend thing or dose he like he just… idk
Hey Kaw,
Sounds like more than a “friend” thing. The teasing, joking around with you, giving you a nickname, all are good signs there’s something more than just a friendship going on.
Hopefully, if you gave him the right signals back, sooner or later he’ll progress and DO something about it.
A couple of days ago I was looking around for a place to stand to watch our school race. I turned a corner and I stopped dead in my tracks when I realised that me and my previous crush were standing completely frozen staring at eachother. This lasted for a couple seconds but it felt like it lasted forever. My friends was pulling me away but we just stood looking at eachother. Since then whenever He appears I subconsciously dart my head towards him even if I didn’t realise he was there and he does the exact same thing. I don’t want him to know my feelings for him are growing again. I was so indiscreet last time I liked him I’m pretty sure he was turned off and creeped out. But now he keeps looking at me and I can’t help but look back. What does this mean?