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Hi Peter,Thanks for the lovely humanitarian job.I fell in love with a guy whose girlfriend passed away a year ago.We started by chatting and he always was talking about his girlfriend.he never proposed to me or anything.it was just me who feel deeply in love with him.we met several times and we made love.the last time we met in august since then he never communicated to me.even when i wrote he never replied.this situation makes me very sad as am madly in love with him.but two days before after i wrote him i miss him so much he just wrote i only see you as a friend if you want you can come and we can talk but nothing more i can never forget my girlfriend.i respect his feelings and i respect his love for her but i feel demeaned by his attitude what do i do please?he has told me openly if you want you can come we can talk as a friend.do i ask to go or what i do.he disnt write to me or ask me to go.
You’re welcome Zainab and thank you for stopping by.
Getting over a death to someone close can be tough for a majority of people. I can not get into all the ways people learn to cope with it and move on, and how some wounds heal slower than others, but I can tell you this love you feel for him, must put his wishes and state of mind first.
Two years later and he was always talking about her has to tell you he hasn’t moved on yet. There’s not much you can do about that. He has to find his own way.
It’s unfortunate you both got together somewhat recently after he lost her, because that put’s you on his “rebound,” a warm person to share the intimacy he lost, a way to escape and just be close to someone.
This might combine in his head. Meaning you now remind him of her and he relates it all in his head. So becoming intimate again with you brings up the past and makes it more difficult for him. Probably a good reason for him to want to only be friends. Among others.
My advice is not too unusual. I just hope it makes sense to you.
Learn to be his friend but at the same time you must seek out other guys. Exploring newer options will help you step back from him and just be his friend. If you love him then I know his friendship means something to you. And he just might need you there.
Over time you just never know when he’ll be ready to move on.
If you can not do both – then you must let him be. There can NOT be a second agenda to being friends. You can not stay his friends while thinking “Maybe…” or “If I help him through he’ll come to me.” That will only cause problems for both of you. And it’s not fair to either one of you.
Your state of mind will tell you if you should ask him. Again if you can’t find yourself being a friend without an agenda then I wouldn’t ask. Let him come to you.
Sorry to hear you got into something with a guy at such a bad time and I do wish you both the best,
Pete
Hello there doctor,
I noticed a guy staring at me in class and smiling at me and I know that means nothing I just assumed he was very friendly. Then later as the weeks pass he starts conversations and says my name alot. (I didn’t even know his name at this point). I developed a crush soon after and I finally approached him after class and asked him a question about and he walks me to my car. And tells alot of personal things about himself he ask me my last name and tells me his. He makes jokes and is super cute
Doctor… I Love it!
Some guys are taught and believe if you say a woman’s name a lot she’ll like you more. Is it working or becoming weird because I don’t necessarily believe it. I prefer a fitting nickname and use it sparingly.
But it’s great you approached him and got him talking about himself. Enjoy the crush Mimi. Thanks for sharing Mimi. Cuter than me…. Mimi? Haha!
The doctors says he probably thinks you’re more than just cute.
-Pete
Hi Peter
Well I met this guy on Facebook, his friends’ with one of my male friends and they’re both in the same class. When I accepted his friend request he introduced himself – told me he knows my friend, usually sees me when I take the bus and we talked about random stuff. During the friendly conversation I realized that I was asking most of the questions, so due to past experience I started to give straight forward answers and waited to see if he was one of the guys that cannot keep a conversation going which i find a bit annoying when you’re both getting to know each other. I think he got the message and it was kind of a sign for me to give it a try.
We had further conversations on Facebook after that, but there hadn’t been much flirting going on – not something I’m used to but I don’t mind since he always makes me laugh. I have a friend who knew him back in Secondary School a few years ago, and she told me that he was quite, friendly and she never saw him with any girlfriend or ever heard that he was dating anyone. Although she added that he would however give girls compliments. So I figured that he’s just shy and just wants to start on a friendly basis with me. I was a bit surprise though since he is good looking, on the other hand it kinda made me like him even more since he’s different.
So knowing about that, I tried being more open and always was the one to start a conversation with him. Its not something I usually do but I took the steps hoping he’ll try to meet me halfway. But so far he hasn’t. I am now wondering if it’s even worth the effort anymore and I barely know him. But I can’t seem to stop thinking bout him which is new to me as well since I usually lose interest when a guy those not show that he is interested.
So Doc, what do u think? Should I keep on taking the first steps? Does he really like me or was he just being friendly? and do you think it may be because there’s a possibility ( I think) that he’s friend at his school that I’m also friends with might have a crush on me? do you think I’ve fallen in love with this guy or is it just infatuation? Really need your help to figure out how I feel and what’s his intentions :/
There is a guy at my church, and for the past few Sunday’s he has been staring at me. This past Sunday as we were doing our normal walk around and greet each other, while he was shaking hands with some of our members, he began staring at me again. Now we have never spoken to one another, but I like what I see, and I’m sure he feels the same. Anyway while he was making his way up to me, suddenly I just got so nervous, mainly because I am very shy. I just don’t what came over me. So while he was shaking hands with the woman next to me, I turned and walked in the other direction. I didn’t see his reaction, because I didn’t look back, so I can’t even imagine what he was thinking. In mind I said to myself, You just messed up your chance with him. The thing is during certain parts of the service, he would still stare, I notice out of the corner of my eye, and when service let out as he was passing by my aisle, he looked in to my face, I smiled and he said Hi. No smile though, and again stared staring at me in the parking lot. So I guess I want to ask is, if he is still into me even though I did what I did. Did I mess up, and if so how can I fix it?
Hi Tai,
The only thing you screwed up, was not meeting him. This may seem like a big deal because I can hear how you’re disappointed in your self – but rest assured most men will give you a second chance.
And if he doesn’t just because you got a little nervous and did nothing harmful in any way towards him, well then Tai, he has a serious problem and I would suggest staying away.
He’s probably a little confused. Feels “snubbed.” And is wondering what type of woman would do this. Some guys are not good noticing how lots of women get nervous around guys they’re feeling something for.
I wish there was a different answer I could give you but I believe you know how to fix it yourself and there’s nothing I can do to alleviate the stress.
Except by telling you, you’re not alone. Lots of women get nervous. You didn’t do anything drastic. Most men will give any woman more than one chance.
The real hurdle you’re facing is the shyness and how it seems to control you when you’re anxiety takes over. It’s protecting you from what your mind believes is harmful. When we all know in this case, the only harm you’re facing is rejection. ( Which of course sucks but can be overcome.)
Let’s not consider what he’s thinking because that will only make it worse. Look at it from your point of view. You want to meet a guy and that’s it. Anything beyond that is at this point unforeseeable anyways.
You find a way to focus on one thing and understand being nervous around the “right” guy will not be a big deal to him.
So you meet him. Find a way to walk right up to him. Breathe out slowly and say, “Hi I’m Tai. How do you meet all these people so easily?”
And then try to smile.
You don’t have to worry about shaking his hand. You don’t have to think about what to say or what’s going to happen or what did happen.
All you have to do is let him know as confidently as you can, with a little charm, that you’re kind of shy BUT you’re trying so hard to meet him, he must have something all these other guys don’t.
I wouldn’t say that directly but I believe the little “”pick up line”
I gave you gives you a great example to work with.
Okay Tai? No worries.
-Pete
Hi Pete,
Thank you so much for replying. It means a whole lot, and also for giving me a little more insight on my shy/anxiety problem. How I shouldn’t let it control me. I have no worries now. Again thanks a lot!
You’re very welcome Tai.
Is this guy really interested?
Before I continue, it should be illuminated that I am a sophomore in high school (he is a freshmen) and I have NEVER dated. So I am pretty confused here. :/
Anyway, he stares at me. A lot. I’ve looked back at him at least once and he didn’t look away. What does that mean? I held the gaze for a few seconds, but then looked away nervously. (I’m VERY, very shy.) I’m actually thinking about perhaps smiling at him next time just to see if he’ll actually walk over and talk to me (I, being shy, honestly will probably never initiate a conversation). I also know he isn’t shy himself. The other day (he’s in my orchestra class), my teacher asked the whole class if anyone had ever heard the piece The Entertainer. I raised my hand, as did many others, and she then asked if anyone knew how to play it on piano. A moment later, he stated rather loudly that he could play it blindfolded and looked my way. That same day, for some reason, he had brought a very intricate stand (musicians place their sheet music on), and when a girl called from across the room that she liked his stand, he again looked my way. Is he trying to impress me or something?
Every day at the end of class, while I’m waiting for the bell to ring, I stand by a table that is near the door. I’m positive he knows this, too. On Fridays, we turn in our practice cards and the little box that we put them in is on the table I stand next to. Last Friday, he came up to that table (while I was there) and put the card in, glanced my way, then walked away. No, I wasn’t staring at him, so he had absolutely no reason to. He had come up behind me so he knew I was there.
Be honest with me. Am I putting too much thought into nothing? Does he have any interest in me at all?
Ok Lara… so you like younger men.
Of course smile at him. Trust me guys like to see a girl smile.
Honestly. It’s been my experience that almost every girl walking on this planet puts too much thought into the whole “why is he doing this” thing. So I wouldn’t even worry about that.
You’ll find those signals you’re getting are right on but sometimes they’re not. As you grow older your intuition will become extremely fine-tuned and when you learn to trust them, you’ll find when you think a guy is doing something because he either wants to meet you or is interested in talking to you – is right just about every time.
My experience tells me a guy his age has not learned the subtlety which comes in handy later on. So if he’s blatantly looking your way, trying to get your attention when he’s being called out as special – then you can safely assume it has something to do with you.
Most men at that age are always trying to impress a girl. Some are terrible at it. Some try to hide it. Some are overly confident and cocky about it. And some slither away because they’re scared and nervous and shy. But until they learn otherwise making an impression is definitely on their minds.
I’m going to say you’re at a perfect time in your life to get past this shyness however you can and learn to deal with the results the best you can. I wish I could tell you it will be all good. But I know that’s not true.
Being nervous is okay. And you have something in common to talk about – music. I met plenty of girls when I was president of my high school band – shhh that’s a secret – and the love for music we shared was always a great and easy way to start a conversation.
Best of luck Lara and I do hope I’ve illuminated your situation best I can,
Pete
So this guy has caught my attention ever since he transferred in last year. He was just an eye candy back then and I just knew him as a person on campus. A year later (now), I’ve become more and more attracted to him as I got to know him and interacted with him. I want to get to know him better. He coaches crossfit at my school twice a week, which I attend both sessions (I am an crossfitter). He is also in one of my classes.
His personality is a person that is quiet, independent, and does things on his own. He isn’t necessarily shy or loud. Just that “meh” kind of a person. So I doubt he would go up to me and talk unless he really is interested. It seems like he is the type who would just go-with-the-flow.
During the crossfit sessions he doesn’t really talk to me as much, except this one session when he was coaching by himself (we have 2 coaches). I do notice that he talks to this annoying freshmen girl (whenever she goes to the sessions) in a teasing manner, which basically made me give up since I assume that he goes for those girls.
I think ever since he noticed that I attend crossfit he now notices me more in class. I think I caught him glancing towards my direction a couple of times (I sit across the room). Lately, I’ve been trying to sit next to him hoping that I will have a better chance to at least talk to him.
So the problem comes down to this: Whenever I am around someone I am attracted to I get very nervous and just ignore the person/avoid them. It’s hard for me to act normal and start convos. I know this is bad since he probably gets the wrong idea or expects me to be the least person to be interested. I notice him staring through my peripheral vision since I don’t have the guts to make eye contact with him (I don’t want to come off as a creep..I’ve had that exp where a guy just blatantly stares at me for a long time..like a creep). Right now, we’re at that awkward stage where we know each other but don’t really say anything. Like for instance, he usually eats around the same time as I do. We could briefly look at each other (by coincidence) but don’t say anything, cause I look away too fast and just walk.
I know I need to stop acting like this since nothing will progress but it’s so hard. I freeze and get so nervous when I am around his presence. One of the reason why I ignore is because I have this mentality that someone that attractive won’t be attractive to me and also I don’t want to make a fool out of myself if I do decide to approach him (I go to a small school). How do I overcome this weird habit of mine? Also my neutral expression is like a resting bitch face. Perhaps this is the reason why I’m unapproachable….Lastly, how can I connect or communicate with him without him getting the idea that I’m a creep? I don’t want to make things awk especially when I go to a small school, same class, and same fitness class…
(Btw..we both share majors, interests, and both fitness people..I always assumed fit guys are attracted to fit girls? He doesn’t have FB, which makes things harder for me to break that awkward ice..)
Hi
Why are attractive women / girls still single?
Stay tuned Wanderlust – I’m working on your question and of course, thanks for asking.
Thank you for your work. Wish I could have written to you about this privately because it is not easy putting yourself out there and feeling like an idiot over something that should be clear. In any case…. Met someone online 2 years ago. Had a strong and steady run for 2 years. Intuitively felt very positive and different around him (something that rarely happens to me-I can usually see through a lot of bs but this guy has really done a number on me). He admits to feeling the same-strong connection. We meet in person and it was even better than imagined. Before that I should note that he appears and vanishes and reappears. After we met I asked about it and he said, “that’s just things guys do”. After I leave, he vanishes again. I call him out on it. He apologizes and says doesn’t want to lose me. Our connection continues to grow deeper. Vanishes again 2 months later. I’m noticing he’s flirting with other women online and telling them to visit him in person. We continue to talk anyway and I try to eradicate the feelings by going on dates but nothing compares to our “connection”. What is silly is that even though he is flirting with other women and doing these things, this “connection” feels sincere. Really contradicts his actions which make him out to be a real player. At the same time, any moment I have pulled away, he always reappears as a way to see if I am still around somehow. He moves away. I get hired in the same country. I decide to go to another country instead. Here is where he changes. Intuitively I feel he has changed but cannot pinpoint why. He still writes to me and every time he does so I feel it is sincere but his actions contradict this sentiment. I am then told by his sister that he is interested in another girl-someone culturally similar and closer to his age (his sister is completely oblivious as to what has been going on between us). This explains his acting different. However, he is still contacting me and every time we speak it is the same as before. I accept that maybe this was all a figment of my imagination and I have given up. Yet when he finds out I will be visiting the country he is in, he is excited-I know this is sincere and asks me to visit him all the while liking this other girl (apparently he is unsure how this other girl feels for him). He finds out that I find out about this other girl and is not too happy about it. Of course I back away because it is silly of me to continue this fantasy as I now feel this was all one-sided. It is baffling as to how wrong my intuition could have been. Now we do not speak as often. I do not think it is a good idea to visit him after all yet I sense him all the time. I should state here that we do have quite an age difference which is hard for both especially since I am older and culturally speaking, they do not “date” but rather, “marry”immediately. To me therefore, he sees love from a perspective of “logic” while I am going by a soul connection. In spite of our “differences”, the connection at least was too difficult for me to ignore. It is difficult moving away from this I guess you can call it, “attachment” since we spoke almost every day for the last 2 years. Finally, I should state here that he has grown up in a home where emotions are never expressed but at the same time is always very responsive to loving messages. He is a romantic at heart I know. Any sound advice and understanding on this would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Lily.
Sounds like you have a good handle on things. Don’t put yourself down for putting it out there. I bet just writing it all made it much clearer in your head.
So straight from the hip – as they say.
Men (or people) will always strive to fulfill every need and desire. If they’re not getting it from one person they will look elsewhere.
In your situation it feels like he is getting a need filled from you that the younger women are not doing. He may even find himself looking for women his age who can not possibly give him what you can and have.
Satisfying his own need to continue and experience the connection you’ve made.
I understand this is not all good news. I understand sometimes things can not be avoided and therefore – two people who work well together are not guaranteed a future. Whether it’s a social issue or the more restrictive cultural differences it becomes a sad love story when two people can not be together.
I can not definitively say he’s a player. As I can not define your definition of a player either.
I can say however – that when a man has not explicitly stated in one form or another that he wants to be exclusive AND he’s “good” enough to attract lots of different women – he will continue to at least try to balance it all.
I’m not saying you’re not fulfilling many of his needs. You just don’t know the cultural pressure he feels and his desire to “upkeep” his family life or make his parents proud, and how all that combines to make up his entire need set.
And some guys refuse to let someone else even try to fill the needs they believe must be done personally. It’s kind of part of being a complete man.
Hopefully you’re now understand it all a little better now. As always the best of luck to you and don’t stop trusting your intuition,
Pete
what does it mean to a guy when he says he loves me?
Interesting question Mia seeing how lots of men can not explicitly state what love really is and if they’re feeling it. So you’re bound to get many different answers even from similar guys.
This makes your question more about a very specific man and not a general feeling of the meaning of love.
I will however – very soon – give you a complete write up from this guys perspective.
For now – all you have to imagine is that the guy you’re thinking of – is probably experiencing attraction, connection, and when he’s around you – feels like you understand him. An expression of love is not always about intimacy.
Keep your eyes out for more and please be patient as I “ask around”
Thanks Mia for opening up this discussion as it rightly deserves a place at “Why Do Guys…?”
-Pete
Hey there Peter,
Long story short… found this shy man at work – smiled at him and saw his glances many times. He was always around, but never too close. Every time we talked he was acting nervous, but we ha great conversations about our wishes and private life. I was a litte unsecure and started acting a little distant – thought he would make an approach soon if he wer interested. He did not :-/ i later found out that maybe i was expection to much to soon from a shy guy. One day i added him on facebook with a message if it was okay, and he answered so nicely happy back. Afterwards he kinda ignored me at work- like i did not exicst. I was terrified. It was very strange, because he seemed so nice in the message. I took a change and tried to write him a message that i really like him and hope we could meet someday and my number. I got a sweet and caring message back that he very much wanted to meet in the nearest future although he was busy right no. So we shoud arrange when it could be. I wrote that i was glad but also busy but if he did not have plans over the autumn then he could come over someday. I have not heard from him since… :-/ why would a guy send out theese mixed signals? I heard from a friend that he recently broke up with a girl who bullied him and used him, but i am afriad he is just not that into me or i maybe have to do something more?
Regards, a girl from Germany
I appreciate you stopping by Martha. I’ve written this to answer your question.
If you have any comments or more to ask, please leave them there.
http://www.whydoguys.com/was-he-giving-out-mixed-signals-why-being-friendly-enough/
Thanks – Pete
I met this guy on a popular social networking site over a year ago and we had been talking off and on ever since. We finally started talking on a daily basis and decided to go ahead and meet up. We hit it off. We continued to text every single day several times a day, we became intimate, I stayed at his place a few times and I was genuinely happy. We were texting one evening, about 9:30 at night and I asked him if he wanted to meet up at the bar that my friend and I were going to. He said yeah, let me know when you know where you’re going. So almost 3 hours later I finally got to where I was going and I texted him and got no reply. I just let him know where we were. I was going to leave it at that. My friend however couldn’t let it go. She took my phone and was texting him, calling him and messaging him on FB. Then she stole his number from my phone and started doing the same from hers. He has barely spoken to me since. I apologized the next morning when I saw what had happened and he said “its ok lol” and that was it. I didn’t hear from him for 5 days and the only reason he said anything to me was because I finally texted him first. He still likes my photos and comments on my posts and will say whats up a couple times a week, but it’s not even close to the same as it was between us. I really thought things were going in the right direction until that night my friend did that. Is there any salvaging this or do I just let it go and move on? I’m not quite ready to give up on it yet but if that’s what I’m going to need to do, so be it.
“Babycakes” – I’m sorry I can not say that with a straight face.
Seriously, if a man is not ready AND there is no exclusive declaration, at some point when he begins to feel things are getting too close – he’ll probably pull back or change the dynamic of the relationship. (This includes going from hot and sweaty to just being friendly.)
It does sound like your friend pushed him over the edge but I imagine it was going to happen anyways.
I came to that conclusion solely based on the whole FB thing. You’re paying a lot of attention to him and who he is commenting on, and how he feels about your pictures. Or if he doesn’t say anything at all.
Even if a guy doesn’t see that or realize it’s going on I’ve found it doesn’t end there. Meaning, men who pay attention or experience even mild success with women will see it in other ways. To us it comes across as needy or worse yet, clingy. (Even if you’re not possessive at all.)
Aside from all that – there is a way to “possibly” salvage it all. Obviously there are no guarantees.
Give him more space than you think he needs. Ignore everything and anything he does on Facebook. Meet a few more guys and “see what happens.” If you do that on FB do NOT intent to make him jealous. Make your sole intention to possible meet someone new.
Keep your conversation light and playful and do it sparingly. Even go so far as busting his ass about your friend. Tell him you think she likes him in a funny way. Tell him to be careful because she can get a little clingy. Then smile big.
Don’t ever apologize again for your friend about that incident. Except when you’re joking about it make no mention of it. To you it’s no big deal.
This guy needs to understand (without game playing) this is not exclusive. For him to gain those rights – well he must take that step and make it happen.
There’s a lot you can do to allow him to feel that way and I’m sorry I can not cover it all.
But what I’ve given you is a great start.
AND I must insist – do this only if you’re willing to casually date other men and give him the space to casually date other women. I understand not everyone is willing to go that far.
Keep in mind this is NOT about making him do anything – it’s about you not settling for a man who appears not ready to commit.
Okay Babycakes
I get the feeling you have more to say… and I’m looking forward to hearing it and I make no predictions on what it’s going to be.
But please, whatever you do, do NOT give my number out to your friend.
Pete
Can you please tell me …what it means when your ex therapist …texted me wishing you a wonderful day….that’s all..what does it mean
Hello Kim.
I can not say anything particular about him but I can tell you when a thought about someone crosses my mind, and something inside me is “trying” to be helpful, (whether it’s a selfless act or a selfish one) AND I’m experienced an emotional “moment” I will reach out to those who best match that feeling.
I wish I could tell you what he was feeling at that time but I can’t. Something tells me there’s more to your relationship then just being your therapist. Is that wrong?
Think of it this way – have you ever been drunk texted by a guy? How he’s usually more emotional. The alcohol gives him the courage to speak up and the “lack of sober judgement” stops him from thinking first.
Well there are times when guys do this sober. For most guys it’s based on their sharing abilities. In other words a hard tough emotionally closed off man probably won’t be “sober texting” you but a guy is more open about his feelings will.
But I must state – based on what I’ve read – I can not say if it has anything to do with being “more than a therapist.”
It’s about – when we experience a “moment” and it does’t feel real or right unless we share that moment – we will reach out to those who match that emotion closely.
Thanks Kim. Hope that helps ya… Have a wonderful day
Pete
We’re in love and living apart very far away from each other. One day, I’ve sent him a message saying that i miss him so much, and not heard any news from him. He answered me back by saying he was so busy and told me to just miss him as much as possible.
Please let me know what he means by saying that. That could mean he still love me and miss me so much like i miss him or he’s not in love with me no more and not missing me at all ????
Thank you very much .
I ve been friends for long with this guy,he first wanted a relationship i didn t so we just stayed friends.I can say that i frendzoned him because i didn t wanted a relationship because i was scared even though i liked him too.But he was always telling me how he likes me,how he wants ME to be his girlfriend, everytime he saw me with my other friends he came to hug me and say hello.A year passed we we hung out every once in a while and my feelings for him started to grow.The last time we were out with mutual friends he was chasing another girl but stil told me that if i was his girlfriend that we would have a long relationship.Thanks god that girl didn t wanted him.So i decided to make a move so when we were alone i kissed him..He was so suprised that he couldnt speak.Then we walked trough the street we kissed again and he went home.Then the veird things began to happen.He didnt call me for days so i wrote him a message,he replied that he was busy but he will find time for me.Later that week i recieved a phone call,he was standing in front of my house and asked if i could come out.It was midnight but i came out.He just said that he was so happy and came to kiss me.I know i shouldnt have kissed him but i coludnt help myself…After that i havent seen him for weeks.He didn t sent messages,he didn t call me..We haven t seen each other for 1 month…After that i saw him on the street again.He was soo weird he just came to me,kissed me on the cheecks and asked what s up?He was acting like nothing ever happened between us!
He walked away and i was just so dissapointed.Today are two months and he still isn t calling.I just don t understand anything…I know that he doesn t like another girl…He started to always go out with his buddies.My head tells me that i sould ignore him but my heart tells me that i should confront him and ask what is happening?At least to save our friendship if he doesen t want a relationship.